In Denmark little is known about elderly with ethnic minority backgrounds, at nursing homes or in own homes, and their relative experience of everyday life near death. The purpose of the article is to illustrate the conceptions and needs of death in everyday life near to death. The method is based on qualitative interviews with 13 elderly and nine relatives from different continents. The study has an anthropological and everyday life theoretical approach. A ‘good death’ is regarded as a quick, unexpected death. A ‘bad death’ is prolonged, conscious and with dependency. Some elderly/ relatives who express conceptions about apocalyptic notions problematise the process of dying. Others with a lifecycle perspective talk more harmoniously about death. The elderly mainly wish to have their nearest family around them when they die. Most elderly/relatives have little knowledge about palliative care. The results indicate a need for a health political and professional effort in this area.