The purpose of this study is to describe how persons with a permanent need of help experience to have to accept assistance from others during meals.

The results of the study indicate that the relation between assistant and assisted is decisive for the way in which the assisted experiences to be helped during meals. Intuition seems to be the ultimatively best quality an assistant may possess according to the participants in this study. But the study shows only a few examples of the desired intuition in the assistants. On the contrary, the participants report how they have experienced violations from the assistants who treat them like children, force their meals, and sometimes critizise the quality of their food.